Estate Planning During the Holidays: Balancing Openness and Protecting Independence

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by jacqui bilson, principal solicitor

The summer break is a wonderful time for families to come together, making it an ideal moment to discuss important matters, such as estate planning. However, it’s crucial to strike the right balance between being open and protecting your independence. Estate planning is sensitive, and while open discussions with family can help clarify your wishes, they can also expose you to risks like financial or elder abuse if not handled properly.

Why discuss estate planning?
With school holidays approaching, families quite often gather, providing a perfect opportunity to discuss your estate plan, especially if family members will play a role in managing your affairs. This can include explaining your Will, Powers of Attorney, or who you’ve appointed as an enduring guardian.

These conversations can prevent misunderstandings later on and provide clarity about your wishes. However, they also need to be handled carefully. Sharing too much financial or personal information can leave you vulnerable to undue influence or even abuse, especially if there are family dynamics that could complicate the situation.

The risk of financial abuse
Unfortunately, elder abuse, particularly financial abuse, is a real risk in some family situations. This can take many forms, including pressure to change your Will or manipulation to make decisions that benefit someone else. In worst–case scenarios, openly sharing details about your estate plan can give someone the opportunity to exert control over your finances or decisions, leaving you with less independence.

Protecting Your Independence: For some, less can be more While transparency can help avoid future disputes, sometimes it’s safer to keep certain details private. What works for one family may not work for another, and if you have concerns about your independence or about being pressured, it’s perfectly fine to limit what you share.

You don’t need to reveal all the details of your financial arrangements or decisions about your estate during family gatherings. Your independence and decision–making power are paramount, and by seeking legal advice first, you can make informed decisions about what is necessary to share and what should remain private.

When open conversations are critical
On the other hand, in some family circumstances, not discussing your estate planning can lead to significant issues. For example, blended families, estranged relationships, or complex financial situations may benefit from clear communication. By explaining your decisions, such as why one child may receive a larger inheritance or why you’ve appointed a particular person to manage your affairs, you can reduce the potential for future conflict.

Having an open conversation can help ensure that your family understands your choices and that there is less confusion or misunderstanding after you’re gone. However, these conversations should be approached with care, especially if they have the potential to stir up emotional or financial tension.

Seek legal advice first
Before discussing your estate planning with your family, it’s essential to seek legal advice. Every family situation is unique, and a lawyer can provide tailored guidance on what’s safe to discuss and what should be kept private. They can help you navigate complex decisions about your Will, Power of Attorney, and enduring guardian, ensuring that your interests are protected.

A lawyer can also help you prepare for the emotional dynamics that might arise in these discussions. They’ll advise on how best to communicate your decisions and what safeguards you can put in place to protect yourself from pressure or undue influence.

Conclusion: preparing for conversations
The summer break is a great time to have estate planning discussions, but it’s important to balance openness with protecting your independence. While some families benefit from open conversations, others may need to approach these topics more cautiously.

The key is preparation. Get legal advice so that you understand what’s safe to share and what should remain private. By doing so, you’ll be able to engage in meaningful conversations without risking your financial security or independence.

This holiday period, if it’s the right time and safe to do so, consider discussing your estate plan with your family. But always ensure that your decisions are made in your best interest, with the support of legal advice tailored to your circumstances.

The estate planning workbook is a guide to help you collate the important information that your loved ones will need if something happens to you.

We know that your family and loved one’s matter to you. The estate planning workbook is a step–by–step guide to collating all the important information to help your Attorney, Guardians and Executors fulfill their roles.

Available for purchase at www.bilsonlaw.com.au or by phoning our office (02) 4339 0999

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